May 26, 2024


Walls. They shelter us. They keep us safe. If we build them high enough no one can get in and disturb us.
But it’s conflicting, as we know it will not work, neither short nor long term. But in the moment it is the only tool we know how do deploy. It is both conscious and subconscious. We can not blame ourselves for doing it but we have to own it……that is if we really want to stop doing it.
This is not new to you. I know you know it. Sometimes we have to ask why we are doing something and if it brings a positive or negative. We have to unpick the behaviour to fully understand it.
Some may say when we are in a less stable state we build bigger walls. However I have seen people in very stable states build very big walls. It is situational but rarely helps.
Loosen the grip. Save the energy you’re using trying to build, spend it elsewhere. It will serve you better.
You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.